Accepting your Financial Reality with Paulette Perhach
Today I’m talking to journalist, and now published author, Paulette Perhach. Paulette joins me today to share her honest and sometimes cringeworthy journey from writing the viral fuck-off fund post to having no fuck-off fund at all. She shares why she wanted to write a book for writers that’s not just about how to make money writing. It’s a great conversation with lots of learning lessons.
What are we drinking?
Paulette — Mate
Shannon — Club Soda
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- Saying you hate yourself because you failed is just a waste of time. You could spend that time solving the problem.
- Paulette has had a tumultuous time with money. When she was around eight or nine, her dad lost his job and they had to live on her mom’s small teaching salary. Buying basic needs was difficult. She was scared and embarrassed a lot.
- When Paulette was 17, her dad was working again and was killed in an accident at work.
- When she was 23, Paulette received money from her dad’s death and put it into purchasing a house in Florida in 2005. She had to short sale her house later.
- Paulette joined the Peace Corps after that.
- Paulette has a journalism degree but was moving toward creative writing.
- In her 30s, Paulette had a good job and a few thousand dollars in the bank. She realized how different her previous situations, including a bad relationship and being sexually harassed by her boss, could have been by just having some money saved up. She would have had an exit.
- In 2016, Paulette wrote The Fuck Off Fund essay and it went viral. In 2017, she decided to travel in South America for three months. She drained her fuck-off fund and then moved to Seattle to a 150 square foot apartment and tried to rebuild her fund. She was the fuck-off fund girl with no fuck-off fund.
- Paulette started a blog at fuckofffund.com.
- Any time you start getting down about yourself, you have to say this situation is a result of your choices and if you want it to change, you have to make different choices. Take the emotion out of your financial situation.
- Half the battle is seeing the reality and acknowledging the choices you’ve made. Getting out of a bad financial situation is not easy. If you put in the hard work, you will get results.
- Move from the victim mindset to a power mindset around your financial situation.
- Women don’t think about growing richer. Often, they feel bad about wanting to make more.
- “What would I do if I were a man?” has been Paulette’s guiding question.
- Paulette wrote her writing course after she had a bad day at work and read The Four-Hour Work Week. She wanted to be a writer who helped writers be writers. She wanted to open up and be really honest about the difficulty of being a writer.
- A book deal was offered to her through Sasquatch Books in Seattle and she wrote Welcome to the Writer’s Life. It’s a combination of some of the things in her writing course and her life. Paulette’s style is to write about things that confuse her, because she wants to share what she learned. This book lays out a buffet of options if you want to incorporate writing in your life.
- Paulette got paid $40 for the Fuck Off Fund essay. It has taken her 20 years to make money from writing. Write because you love it.
- Paulette’s safety net is knowing that at any time, she can move into a room and make a life there and be okay with it.
- Over the next year, Paulette wants to give herself a freelance MBA, where she learns about being an entrepreneur.
- Shannon attributes time blocking as a huge part of her success and her trainers’ success. Time blocking is all about taking an assessment of the things you have to do in a week and figuring out what gets lumped together naturally. Then choose the most efficient time to address those. Are you more creative in the morning or at night? Match your tasks with your most productive time in the day or week.
- Paulette’s book, Welcome to the Writer’s Life, came out on August 14, and it is available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and Powell’s. There are a lot of online elements including courses and coaching. When you get the book, join the Facebook group to become part of a community of writers.
TAKEAWAY: My biggest takeaway is the importance of accepting your financial reality and acknowledging the choices you made to get there. I love that Paulette embraces her decisions, even the bad ones, and she continues through her journey. At the very least, she’s getting lots of fodder for her next book.
Random Three Questions
- If you were to write another book, what would it be about?
- It’s your last night on earth and you are on death row. What would be the meal you eat?
- Where would you like to travel to next, if money was not an option?
Connect with Paulette
Blog: The Fuck Off Fund
Podcast: Can We Talk About Money
Website: Paulette Perhach
Facebook: Paulette Perhach
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