I had a friend in college who was brilliant and beautiful and literally could do anything in life. We used to talk about our futures. I knew from the first day of college that I was going to be a business major, get a job in financial services upon graduation, and tackle the male-dominated world of finance. She wanted to get her degree, marry a wealthy doctor, and become the most educated housewife at her country club. This friend is still a great friend; however, she never married that doctor and is in fact still single. She could have married someone who was financially well-off, but she realized money really didn’t make things better and ultimately he couldn’t give her everything she wanted from a relationship. She’s worked hard to build her career in the non-profit sector, even though she could quite frankly make more money doing other things. Even though it was never her life plan, she’s learned how to live as a strong, independent, career-minded woman. She actually makes Financially Blonde decisions and is one of the most Financially Fit people I know. So despite her lower salary, she is able to save and plan for herself long term.
I think we all (men and women) secretly want to marry rich. It would certainly make some aspects of our lives easier. The reality is that we can’t choose who we fall in love with. Or we can’t control who does or doesn’t fall in love with us. I fell in love with a teacher. Some people, like my friend now, think it is better to NOT marry rich. And most importantly, there really aren’t that many “rich” people out there (only 1% of the population would fit into this category). So, given all of these realities, we need to make sure that we make the best financial choices for ourselves and our future spouse. Just as my friend did, we need to make sure we can take care of ourselves because we don’t know what life and love are going to bring us.